Yup. We’ve all been there haven’t we. The times we’ve been made to feel like the worst person in the world for wanting to have time alone, either on our own or with our little family unit. Especially when we start our own family and people literally want to spend every minute with you. Actually, that’s BS, they want to spend every waking moment with our little ones and we feel we have to put up with their sh*t because of it.
Well, I’m here to tell you that this is absolutely not the case and you are well within your right to say ‘no’. I mean, that’s being seriously polite. You may want to scream in their faces, slam the door, and never see another human outside of your home ever again, but we’re aiming for damage limitation, okay?
It is bloody exhausting to say the least. And it is so detrimental to our mindset if we allow these people to creep in all too regularly... and then we kick ourselves afterwards as to why we’ve just wasted a whole day being lectured to and whined at because they’re too unhappy in their own existence and therefore want to spread some of this unwanted ‘love’ to try and make themselves feel better. Excuse me hun, but off you pop, I am not interested today, nor will I be interested for quite a while as I focus on my own sh*t. Ta very much!
And, yes, they’ll scream blue murder when you take this stand. You’ll be seen as the worst human since a Second World War dictator, and that is okay. If these people do not bring any joy, support, happiness and laughter into your life then what have you got to lose? Yes, you may have been friends for over twenty years or you’re family so it’s going to be awkward at the next mind numbing family shindig, but who cares?! Life is too precious! And so is your happiness...
Trust me when I say that the first time you say ‘no’ is quite uncomfortable, then you notice how fecking fabulous you feel doing it and spending time with those who fill your cup, and before you know it, you’re throwing them around like your vagina back in your early twenties. Ahhh, those were the days...
So, give it a go and see how you feel... you can thank me later 😉
Love, Alice x