This is something I have to remind myself of on a daily basis. You know when you’re just wanting to throw yourself on the floor screaming ‘f*ck this sh*t!’ whilst lying in your own puddle of self-pitying tears... And why wouldn’t you? Adulting is bloody hard! No-one warns you of the constant emotional rollercoaster that sees you wanting to vom in the morning and dancing around the kitchen in the evening. It’s so confusing! But one thing that never changes is the fact these little eyes are constantly watching us and we have to behave like a responsible adult for as much of the time as physically possible - exhausting 😩
And this is where self care comes into touch. I believe it is a fundamental part of us living a happy and fulfilled life rather than one of existence solely. Whether that is grounding yourself outside in nature, dancing around in the long grass barefooted whilst wearing a flowery wreath on your head or whether that is taking a bath when the kiddies are in bed and just chilling the f*ck out, either way, do what is necessary to get yourselves feeling human again. We seem to forget that we were once solely in charge of ourselves and did lots of lovely things to raise our vibrations and keep us feeling fecking fabulous, but that’s exactly what we did, so why should it be any different now we have children? Playing the martyr will not get you anywhere, other than functioning at a place of severe resentment and bitterness and we all know that’s never a nice place to be in. Putting your hand up and saying ‘I’m taking some time for me’ is something we should be proud of, not ashamed of, because what are we teaching our little ones for their future? That in order to get by in life you need to work yourself into the ground, be severely miserable and absolutely hate life because you’ve forgotten who you are and where you come from? Absolutely not! We need to show them that life is pretty fecking amazing, that even when sh*t hits the fan and things seem so bloody exhausting, that we can get through them and come out stronger than ever. We need to show them that life isn’t all rainbows and unicorns, but that if we look after our health and wellbeing with regular self care, we can overcome a whole world of sh*t and that these are the times we learn the most about ourselves and that is pure gold.
Take the time for you. It is so important. Not just for you, but for those around you. It’s a life lesson that our children must learn in order to thrive in this world. Trust me, you’ll thank yourself later ✨
Love, Alice x